About Melissa

Let’s create the mom life you want 

I am so glad you’re here, friend.

Does the mama life have you feeling exhausted, weary, and tapped out?  Do you feel overwhelmed and ready to snap or pack your bags and run away? Do you feel like a bad mom, not sure where you’ll muster the energy to tackle another day like today?  Most importantly, do you feel alone in this, adding to the Mama guilt that robs you of those precious hours of sleep you desperately need?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, you’re in the right place. 

The heart of Mom Life by Design is freedom.  Freedom from overwhelm.  Freedom from pressure to be perfect.  Freedom to be fully yourself and show up as a gift to your family and the world as God intended.

Hi – I’m Melissa, and I’ve been in your shoes (and still find myself there occasionally!).  At my worst,I felt like I was sinking into a pit of Mama despair as I couldn’t find balance between what HAD to be done, and what I wanted to do.  I was burnt out, frazzled, and snappy because I felt like I was literally living on the ledge. I felt like I was drowning in motherhood and had lost my joy.  

I got thrown into the midst of Mama life for the first time when we adopted our oldest son, who was 2 and a half at the time.  It took some adjusting, but we soon found our stride as a family of three.  My Mama heart expanded again as we welcomed our youngest son home 2 years later.

I loved them fiercely, but motherhood was NOTHING like I expected. 

I felt low-key frustrated all the time – that frustration was just simmering under the surface and the smallest things would set me off. I felt so much guilt and shame because I wasn’t being the mom that I wanted to be. 

I had this pull to be something better, this higher version of myself, and I had no clue how to access that. I tried different to do lists and managing my time different ways, and doing all sorts of “hacks” that everyone prescribed to change my circumstances, but nothing helped rekindle my joy. What I didn’t know was all I really needed to change was my thoughts.

Everything changed for me when I found tools that helped me to take my thoughts captive and be truly transformed by the renewing of my mind. I was able to rediscover my purpose and joy again in motherhood that I had lost and I was so desperately looking for.

I’ve got good news. You don’t have to do this alone. I’ve been there before, and daily coach myself and my clients through creating the life they desire. The only thing your joy depends on is YOU. It’s not your circumstances, not your children, your spouse, or your job. It’s not anything other than you and you’ve got control of you.

Take my hand, and let’s do this together. Let’s find the freedom to live YOUR mom life by design.